Posted by on Aug 6, 2013 in 31 Days of Parenting Teens & Tweens, Family, Marriage, Parenting, Teens & Tweens | 25 comments



Fight Porn Addiction - post by Robin DanceYou should not…cannotm u s t  not think porn doesn't affect you or your family.

If you think your husband wouldn't look at porn under the "right" circumstances, you're deluding yourself.

If you think your children aren't going to stumble across it by accident (if not on purpose), I'm here to tell you the vile minds who produce it are savvier than you or me and they're finding ways to make it happen.  

I know this from personal experience, stunned to discover some of the pages Google returned when one of my children researched a school report on slavery….

How did I find out?  Not because my child told me; thankfully, my internet filter reported to me in real time.  I marched right upstairs to find out WHAT in the world was going on, and couldn't believe what I discovered, how easily accessible it was…and how it had nothing to do with my son's report.

It breaks my heart imagining those images inked in permanent marker, stone-chisled, branded in  flesh.  Tender hearts, sweet minds, all but impossible to remove. 

Damn them.  My response is violent fury lasered at invisible monsters.

I have a beautiful, college-age daughter; I have two teenage sons, one of whom begins his freshman year at college next week.  More than sex or drugs or rock and roll, pornography has kept me awake at night, the influence for which I've been most concerned.  There are no words strong enough to convey my anger, frustration and fears when it comes to the effect porn addiction can have on innocent minds, on marriages, on families.

Remember the 90s Brain on Heroin PSAs?  The one that came after your Brain on Drugs commercial?  That is what porn addiction does to your brain…it wrecks it and the people who love you.

Purity is a dwindling commodity in today's youth culture; retailers peddle sex like it's candy.  Former tween stars grow up and explore their sexuality in front of God and everybody. 

And we just breathe it in like oxygen, half the time not even realizing it. 

That's how accustomed we've become to sexual imagery.  What used to be rated R barely registers now as PG.

I stumbled across a compelling infograph today; it's actually what prompted this post:

 

FTND-Infographic-How is porn addictive?

How is porn addictive? Please visit http://www.fightthenewdrug.org/

 

Porn causes partners to bring baggage and unrealistic expectation into marriage.  For those already married, it undermines your spouse, distorts love and destroys intimacy.  Addiction breeds dissatisfaction and shreds reality…I likely have NO idea the reach of its devastation.

No one is immune from pornography's potential destruction.  No matter how hard you try to shield and protect your family, no effort is 100% sure.

But that doesn't mean you shouldn't do what you can to protect those you love. 

Check out the source of the How is Porn Addictive? graphic above, Fight the New Drug.  Their goal is "to educate teens on the harmful effects of pornography and provide a
free-of-cost recovery program for those who are struggling with
addiction."   They're neither religious or legislative which allows them entry into schools.  Brilliant.

Protect your computers.  We use Net Nanny by Content Watch, one of the filters suggested by FTND.  (When I looked for deals on their affiliate page, I saw that you can try it FREE for 14 days, enough time to decide if you'd like to purchase it.)

We just bought computers for our oldest two to take to college; before we turn them over to them, my husband was ADAMANT that I install Net Nanny on both.  It has NOTHING to do with us suspecting they're battling a porn addiction; and EVERYTHING to do with us wanting to help make it a non-issue…at least on the computers we buy.  Net Nanny (and I suspect) other filters have tools for cell phones, too; see?  that's one area for which we haven't been diligent….

This one makes me spitting mad, friends, because this is the world my babies will have to navigate.  It makes me nostalgic for the days the Sears catalog was the biggest threat in your mailbox…not Victoria and her stupid secrets.

Have conversations with your spouse and children.  Do something to help them help themselves. 

You can't afford to stick your head in the sand and think its reach can't slip under your door. 

Invisible monsters are nowhere and everywhere.

 

Please watch this video.  If I haven't convinced you to be diligent, maybe it will.

 

 

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